Placing all dots

One thing I realized during this journey called life is you need to place your dots the right places. I figured I needed to get as much education as I can while I can so that when I opportunities starts presenting themselves I will be ready. Sometime I get frustrated at the fact that I cannot go to school right now, I cannot apply for jobs, I cannot afford to moves so I find myself in this bubble and I feel is like check made with life. I need to be patient, and keep working hard.

Is Education Important???

The Importance of Making the Right Choices

Yesterday I was on the phone with my mother, and we talked about many things relating our family. One thing that came to my realization is the Importance of making the right choice. Whatever we do in life has a consequences, if we decide not to go to be bathroom to pee, chances are our kidneys will be affected, whether sooner or later. To every action there is a reaction. One of the Ten Commandments states that making bad choices will not only affect your kids but 3rdor 4th generations to follow. That's how this is so important. A lot of us makes decisions not realizing that those decisions not only affect the people around us but also generations to come. If we can change our thought process and realize how important this is, I believe this will change the way we start making choices.

For example, my brother is 4 years younger than me. He has two kids with two different mothers. We grew up in a family were he had a Father and Mother, now his kids will grow up with one or either. Things happens and that's very understandable. Now it is very important for my brother and anyone out there who is the same situation or worse to change the way they make decisions from here now on. His choices will not only affect his kids but also affects me directly. You might ask how is that possible, the thing is if my brother can't afford to do certain things for his kids, if I'm able to help then it is my responsibility to help those kids because they are mine as much as they are his. This goes back to the ancient days in our culture where, for example, if something happened to my brother God forbid, I will have to take care of his family even going as far as marrying his wife to keep the name of our family moving forward. So my brothers kids are as part of me as he is. So his decisions not only affects him and his kids but also the rest of our family.

Vise verse, my decisions affects him and everyone else around our family. There for in order to win again we need to play in such a way that we can win and that means making the right choices. Yes we will not make the right choices every time but to realize the importance of how our decisions will affect us not only 20 years or 30 years from now but even generations to come.

Lets make the right choices, lets not be selfish and consider only our needs, but lets realize that our decision affects others we love. Note that bad decisions means years and years that others will have to pay for our stupid mistakes.

Do you know why you where created?

No many of us can answer this question. Due to different background, culture, religious beliefs we turn to answer this question differently. I didn't know how to answer this question until today. I still don't know why but we all were created for a reason. Life has taught me that even if you believe that you were created for something bigger than yourself, in God's eyes it might be as simple as coming into this world and doing one thing and one thing only then the rest doesn't matter. My sister was a wonderful person, tears feel my eyes as I'm writing about it. She never complained, always worked hard, and did right by everyone else. She took care of us, I mean bathed us, cooked for us, and literally did everything for us.

She had a daughter, and she never finished high school, she tried 2 times but could never get a pass. It was not meant to be, if it was written that she was going to matriculate then she could have but God had other plans. Who knows what God's plan was, only God does. But I have my own theory, God brought my sister into this world to motive me to want to do better. I made a promise to take care of her daughter. Now is that the only reason??? probably not, but in my eyes and my experience, it is probably that reason alone that changed my views and prospective on things.

Winning Is Everything

I always believed that I have a story to tell. I always have a passion to communicate my views with others. To share my beliefs and views about the important issues relating to our everyday life. Growing up in the southern part of africa, I had a lot of learning to do as far as the world is concerned. My father who was and still is a great influence in my life, had a lot to do with my hunger for knowledge. See he never went to school himself, since the age of 8 years old, preached about how important it was for us to be lawyers. Now I know and understand why he always wanted to see us sitting on the other side of the table instead of the ones who come in to consult. It is so funny though that, a father can say the same thing to both his kids but the interpretation of what he meant will be different. Why is that? Why would my brother perceive it one way and I perceive it the other? Does it have to do with the relationship between the father and son? I think so, see my siblings thought I was my father's favorite. We had a lot in common and that could be mistaken for favoritism. My older brother did not play soccer, so me and my father talked about soccer all the time matter of fact thats the only thing we ever talked about. I can't remember a day without talking about soccer. I lived, dreamt, ate, slept, pretty much did everything through soccer. I must admit soccer opened a lot of doors in my life. I will elaborate on the how so later.

Back to being a favorite, you could say I was not close to my mother since she didnt play soccer and my older brother was close to my mother. Now you could perceive it as my brother being my mother's favorite. That thought crossed my mind at some point in time. But that was quickly squashed when I realised that I needed my mother and wanted my father. See my mother was a person you could go to when you need anything and she will stick her neck out for you, on the other hand, my father was there for mostly to toughen you up. To make you to be a man. To help you deal with the outside world. That was my father's territory.

Winning was everything when it came to my father. I had to learn ways to play to win. I'm still learning even today ways that will help me to eventually win. See to me life could be viewed in many ways. I view life in several ways, for example, life is a game (could be a game of soccer, tennis, boxing, puzzle or even poker are all among ways that I view life and I turn to incorporate them in the wonderful journey of ours) and to every game there are rules that one needs to abide by. Therefore many times a lot of us try to play outside these boundaries and as we all know playing outside the rules you get panelized. Therefore the main point of this book is to teach us, myself include, ways that will help us to play in such a way that you win. Another example I like to use is a marathon. I will elaborate later how this relate to friends and life.

thank you for today we will continue next time.....